Many people are in relationships where they feel insecure, controlled, belittled, intimidated, or emotionally and physically hurt.
Perhaps someone close to you is experiencing this. Violence is not always visible from the outside. It does not always leave bruises but may instead show itself through withdrawal, silence, or changes in behavior.
Your attention, your willingness to listen, and your courage to notice what is happening matter. Simply taking someone seriously can give them strength – even if they respond cautiously.
This questionnaire is designed to help you identify possible warning signs, understand the situation, and learn how to act safely and supportively.
For people experiencing violence, close friends and family are often their most important source of support. Not everyone is able to talk about what they are going through. However, signs of an unhealthy or abusive relationship can be noticed, even if the person is not speaking about it.
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Do you notice that the person you are concerned about rarely discusses their relationship or partner, or avoids certain topics?
Do you feel that the person often blames themselves for problems in the relationship?
Do you get the impression that the person's relationship is unpredictable or goes through frequent ups and downs?
Do you feel that the person’s partner is often jealous, or that jealousy is affecting their relationship?
Does it seem that the person’s relationship is difficult or hurtful? (e.g., belittlement, insults, or ridicule from their partner)
Do you think the person you care about has changed because of their relationship? (e.g., in behavior, appearance, adapting to the partner)
Does the person you are concerned about seem restless or tense due to frequent calls or messages from their partner?
Do you notice that the person you care about often cancels plans or spends less time with others?
Do you get the sense that the person’s spending or finances are being controlled by their partner?
Do you think the person you are concerned about feels pressured in their relationship?
Do you feel that the person is stressed since the relationship began? (e.g., sad, insecure, exhausted, physically unwell)
Have you noticed that the person has bruises or other injuries that they explain only briefly or vaguely?
Do you think that the person you are concerned about is in immediate danger?
Do you personally know the person's partner?
Do you feel able to actively support the person in terms of your time, energy, or personal capacity?
In everyday settings like work, school, or social activities, you may notice when someone doesn’t seem to be doing well in their relationship – even if they don’t say much. Small observations can sometimes point to an unhealthy or abusive relationship.
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Do you get the impression that the person's relationship is unpredictable or goes through frequent ups and downs?
Do you feel that the person’s partner is often jealous, or that jealousy is affecting their relationship?
Does the person you are concerned about seem restless or tense due to frequent calls or messages from their partner?
Do you think that the person is withdrawing from social activities or staying in touch less often?
Do you feel that the person seems more stressed or has changed lately? (e.g., sad, insecure, exhausted, physically unwell)
Have you noticed that the person has bruises or other injuries that they explain only briefly or vaguely?
Do you think that the person you are concerned about is in immediate danger?
Do you personally know the person's partner?
Do you feel that the person would accept your support?
As a neighbor, you may notice when something isn’t right – hearing arguments, unusual noises, or seeing changes in someone’s behavior. If children are involved, they can also give clues (e.g. crying, appearing fearful, acting aggressively after a conflict). These signs may point to an unhealthy relationship or violence.
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Do you hear loud arguments, insults, or shouting coming from the apartment?
Do you notice other unusual or striking noises? (e.g. banging, slamming doors, pacing, objects falling)
Have you noticed any visible injuries on the person you are concerned about?
Do you notice that the person avoids contact or seems tense and anxious? If there are children: Do you observe any unusual behavior?
Do you think that the person you are concerned about is in immediate danger?
Do you personally know the person’s partner or encounter them in the neighborhood?
Do you feel that the person would accept your support?